Taking Action That Support Your Values
Stress can energize you to take positive action. In her book, The Upside of Stress
, Kelly McGonigal explains “The energy you get from stress doesn’t just help your body act; it also fires up your brain. Adrenaline wakes up your senses. Your pupils dilate to let in more light, and your hearing sharpens. The brain processes what you perceive more quickly. Mind-wandering stops, and less important priorities drop away. Stress can create a state of concentrated attention, one that gives you access to more information about your physical environment.”
McGonigal is describing an immediate physical response to a stressful situation. These concepts also apply to prolonged stressful situations.
Stress energizes and focuses you in various ways:
- Your senses are awakened. You are no longer sleepwalking through the situation.
- Your priorities come into sharp focus. Things that are trivial simply fall away.
- Your attention is concentrated on the situation.
- You recognize information that you were previously ignoring.
This focused energy motivates you to act. Ideally the action you choose is in alignment with your highest values.
Harnessing Stress To Do Good
Your moral character is revealed by the actions you choose to take or to avoid. Do you choose to take the high road or the low road?
Most of us fantasize about some low road options. While these options produce temporary feelings of getting some justice or revenge, ultimately they do not serve us well.
Your emotions are always ok – there are not right and wrong emotions. However, how you choose to behave in response to your emotions may or may not be ok.
So what can you do to take the high road? What can you encourage your kids to do with their strong emotions?
Taking action is critical to owning your power and helping your kids own their power. What is one thing you can do to help the given situation? If you are not sure what options are available, try a couple internet searches on your topic. You may want to join a group of like-minded people who you can work together with to create the changes you are seeking.
Jacqueline Way wanted to help her 3-year-old son Nic learn to be generous and create positive change. She thought this was equally as important as learning to tie his shoes or brush his teeth. Jacqueline and Nic decided to do one thing a day to give back to the world.
They found simple ways to give back that Nic could do. They decided to record and share what they did each day. After doing this for a year, they wanted to encourage others to join in so they started 365give. You can find inspiring ideas for giving and join for free on their site 365give.ca
Being shaken to your core is not comfortable. You have entered uncharted territory. How will you navigate these challenging times? Your children need you to shine your light on the direction of hope.